Disclosure: This post is for informational purposes only. Please discuss any concerns with intimacy issues with your doctor or health care provider.
It is important to talk to you doctor if you experience any problems between the sheets with your spouse. Tell your doctor exactly what you feel or don't feel when having sex. This can help your doctor possibly pinpoint the possible problem. Sometimes medication is to blame or if there is something else possibly interfering with your sexual performance. Somethings can be easily fixed such as changing medications, ect. If you are one of the those people who would rather not be touched or bothered it is important that you try and be intimate. Intimacy with your spouse in any form can actually help improve your life.
What are some reasons why chronic pain suffers refrain from having sex with their spouse?
- If you didn't meet when you had chronic pain, you may begin to feel guilty for your pain levels and your lack of desire in the bedroom. Remember, this feeling is normal but if your spouse truly loves, then your spouse should should accept you where you are NOW and not for who you were. If you feel this way, talk to your spouse about your feelings.
- If you are in pain, most people tend to shy away from participating in activities between the sheets. However, most of the time you can find a position that works for you and your restrictions. Besides that, you have no way of knowing if something is going to cause you additional or increased pain unless you actually try it. If it is painful, communicate with your partner and explain to them what is painful and maybe you and your partner can come up with something else that might work better.
- Most people feel as if they will be rejected for being in constant pain or for their sexual desire/drive to change during the course of their marriage. Chances are your partner still finds you attractive so if you find yourself feeling like this make sure that you talk to your spouse.
- If you find yourself feeling as if you are not able to perform like you once did, you should try to revert your focus so that you can try and relax. Chronic pain suffers may be on anti-depressants, be on pain medications, feel depressed, and have other factors that affects your ability to get in the mood or even be able to orgasm. Trying too hard to fulfill an orgasm each time may leave you feeling more and more frustrated, which makes things more difficult in the long run. However, focus on the feelings and closeness of your spouse.